You remember, the activity that a certain president asserted was not actual sex. His words were something like, "I did not have sexual relations with that woman." Well, yeah, that's what teens these days are doing.
Casual sex among teens has become the norm because society makes promiscuity acceptable. Teens' agreeing to hook up is considered healthy, democratic sex. You can slice it, dice it and dissect it, but pre-marital sex is wrong.
I don't get the fact that some adults are going along with this new culture. Some trusted professional adults are advising inquiring teens that it's OK to be sexually active before marriage because their hormones are raging. Teens are being told they should do whatever makes them feel good and that they should never deny their bodies pleasure. They tell them to just "be safe," whatever that means. There is no such thing as "safe" sex unless you're in a committed marriage-relationship.
If it's OK to do whatever gives you pleasure, than I guess, as silly as it may sound, that if I personally get pleasure out of slapping one out of every five persons in the face that I run into during the course of a day, it's fine? No, I don't think so. That's just as silly as telling teens to have sex because they are little humans that need sexual pleasures, too, just be "safe."
We are neglecting the fact that one out of every five teens will contract a sexually transmitted disease or may become pregnant because they are "hooking up."
Don't you know that "hooking up" causes not only physical pain, but emotional pain, as well? Don't you know that "hooking up" is against 1 Corinthians 6:18? Don't you know?
If you care anything about people, especially teens, you make sure that you give them the best advice possible to secure their future, their health and their well-being.
I was referred to a teen Web site just the other day that made me sick. It is sponsored by Columbia University and called Go Ask Alice (www.goaskalice.com). The advice Alice gives to teens is stomach-turning.
I have seen, on several occasions, the effects pre-marital sex has on teens, and it saddens my heart to see boys and girls "hooking up" and taking pride in having so-called guilt-free sex. In just one week, I've had to deal with not one, not two, but three teen-agers (15 years old) who "hooked up." They are now suffering the consequences (two of them are pregnant and one had an abortion). These are life-long emotional consequences that could have been prevented, but they made the decision to "hook up" without considering the consequences.
The consequence of making bad choices has an effect on the entire family. Hooking up is dangerous. Teens need to know that there's no need to test the market before marriage. They need to know that they are worth the wait.
Hooking up is way too emotional, especially for girls. Anyone with morals will feel some type of regret afterward. There is also a direct link between casual sex and alcohol consumption. What's a teen supposed to do after they've gotten used to "hooking up?" What happens when teens come to the conclusion that hooking up is no longer fun or good for them? What happens when they do fall in love and decide they want a long-term commitment with someone? Will they be able to trust and commit themselves to someone else? Will they even trust themselves?
Casual sex creates low self-esteem and insecurities. Low self-esteem and insecurities are the reasons some choose to engage in casual sex. All factors need to be considered. Teens need to know that the choices they make today can have a life-long effect.
There is no substitute for a committed relationship and there is no value in "hooking up."
Think about what you're doing before you do it! |
